Monday, 22 August 2016

6 Mistakes I Made as a Freshman

When you’re about to start a new study it means your life is going to change drastically. You might be moving out and live on a campus! How cool is that?! It might also scare you a little… It did scare me SO much! But since I’m going to my fourth year I’ve been looking back at the mistakes I made when I started college. And I want to prevent you from those mistakes! These tips will get you a lot further!
Photo: Wonderlass

1. Be who you are

This is the most important tip I can give you. Please be who you are. Don’t pretend to be someone else. Don’t let yourself get pushed in the corner of ‘people-think-I am-like-this-so-I-am-going-to-pretend-I-am-what-they-expect-me-to-be’. Break free from that! You’re preparing for the 'adult life'. Experiment with your clothes, wear what you want to wear. Do what you like, go out and find out who you want to be!

I was too scared to be myself for almost the past three years because in secondary school not everybody liked me for who I was. So I turned into a grey mouse. A wall flower, I lost my smile. And here everybody was so themselves and I wasn’t. I’ve worked really hard for almost three years to find myself. To become comfortable with myself. Find my own style, find my own friends.
I cried the first time I told my teacher how scared I was, how I didn’t believe in myself because some people had told me it repeatedly in secondary school that I wasn’t good enough. And she helped me. I went to classes to become more confident in my own competence. I was so afraid to tell my friends about this, so I only told my closest 3 friends about it and they helped me through it!

So if you feel the same like I felt and you have the chance to go to classes like this GO! It helps so much. I didn’t change completely in those 10 weeks when I followed the course, even though my friends told me that they saw progress. But now, after three years I can finally say that I feel comfortable with myself. I know I’m not there yet. But I finally can say that I feel better and can tell people what happened in the past without feeling ashamed about it. (There is no need to feel ashamed about it but still you do. I don’t know why that is…It's not you, it's the people who hurt you that should be ashamed.) But those classes helped me and I strongly recommend you to do the same. Be yourself or become yourself as soon as possible. You’ll enjoy so much more of the student life as yourself than as someone else you don’t want to be!
(Sorry for the very long personal story here)

Edit: I was so positive at the beginning of this schoolyear, but a few months later I fell into a depression which you can read about here.

2. Study books

I don’t know everything of all the schools everywhere in the world. But I’ve figured out that my school gives me a mega list of books with sky high prices. And at the end of the year I’ve used 3 books of a list where 15 titles were mentioned. So to save you some money: only buy the books when you’re teacher says you really need it. (Don’t follow this tip if you’re not allowed in your class without books. Then be prepared and buy the books that are on the list. I don’t want to cause you a horror first day of not being allowed in your class because you don’t have the books that you should have.) But if you have heard of stories like this. Buy the books a little later. Most services deliver books within 3 work days. So you won’t fall far behind IF you had to read some chapters to prepare for class.

3. Talk

Please, talk to people. No matter how scared you are. I was shitting myself the first day at college. I was so nervous and barely talked. I watched how people made friends. Luckily my class had three really nice girls that I did become friends with but still… Talk, make contacts, smile, and introduce yourself. Don’t sit and look at the others. You need these people if you want your student’s life to succeed. They will help you with homework or group projects, make you laugh and you’ll survive boring classes together! You need friends, everybody does!

4. Say yes.

I’m the kind of person that said no to EVERYTHING the past two or three years. I was scared that I would end up alone somewhere at a place where I didn’t know anyone. Now I’ve learned that it’s not okay to say no to everything. Of course, if you really don’t want to go somewhere say NO. But if you’re saying no because you’re scared, people will not really understand. In the end they won’t invite you anymore because you always say no to where ever they invite you for. Just say yes one time or two times. It’s scary, I know but don’t get isolated from the outside world. It’s so beautiful with so many lovely people. You just need to get over your fear.

Tip: Ask a friend to come with you, tell him or her you’re scared to stand alone. If she is really your friend she will keep an eye on you and make sure you are not alone and probably introduces you to other people!

5. Find a job

I was looking for a job but not hard enough. So I was kind of lazy... And I thought, I stay at home all the time, why do I need money? Well, these thoughts are stupid, you need to go outside your student room. And most of the time that cost money. Sometimes I was invited and then I couldn’t say yes because I had no money. If you have a job you can also save for awesome trips, your driver’s license but you can also have some fun with friends. Going to cinema’s in my case or have a drink in bar somewhere. Money is not the key to happiness but it can make it possible for you to make memories with your friends!

6. Live and laugh

I feel like I was too stressed when I started college. I was freaking out about a lot of things. But you must know that you’re not going to secondary school with people who need to stand out -read bully- to become the cool kid at school. Those things don’t happen in college anymore. People are here because they want to study for their future. You’re all with the same goal at school: to graduate and get a job.

Do what you love. You choose this study. Enjoy it, live it, do your best, and when a school assignment goes wrong don’t panic. You’re here to learn. You get a second chance, learn from the mistakes and don’t let it take you down. And if you can’t figure it out; ask for help. (Read more about that in this blogpost!) And just smile every day. Enjoy this time of your life. It’s over before you even know it. (I just blinked and within one week I start my last year. Starting this study feels like yesterday.)

I feel like I’ve given you the most important tips I could ever give you. I struggled a lot and hope this will make it easier for you to start. Make this the best time of your life in your own way. I didn't party myself to death. That's not who I am. But I did party, I went to movies, I traveled with my friend to London and Brussels. Be who you are and don't look to much around you at others 'being better than you are'. Because you are doing perfectly fine doing things your own way. I wish you all the best for this new college year!

Xx Rianne
Monday, 8 August 2016

The Beauty of France

These are my favourite pictures of this year holiday in France. I had so many photos that it took me a while to pick the very best to show you guys. (In my blogpost '14 days 14 polaroids' you can read how I spent my holiday.) But I love these photos so much and it's weird to think that next year I probably won't see these places again. Maybe even never again. I don't want to think about that.

I would love to go back to the waterfall in Autoir and walk down the stream again. Or walk again in Sarlat and enjoy the crowd or watching the stars at night. On the full moon photo sadly you can't see stars but I had never seen so many stars at night. And also, shooting stars! Me and my friends would get some chairs, settle on the footballfield where weren't any streetlights or campinglights and we would talk and watch the stars, waiting for a shooting star. I loved those nights! I loved just simply driving to another place so I could look around me to see mountains and trees and just beautiful landscapes. (The sunflowerfields!!) I loved the holiday and right now I'm back to work and I can dream about the holiday and even though the work isn't very exciting memories of this holiday brings a smile to my face!

Also, I'm still uploading photos on my Instagram about France so make sure you take a look there too to see more beauty of this country.

Xx Rianne
Monday, 1 August 2016

14 Days 14 Polaroid’s

I challenged myself on summer holiday to take every day one photo. It turns out that that is very difficult. Sunday I forgot because we were the whole day at the swimming pool and the last day was a 12 hour drive home and I forgot to take my camera out because I was sleeping most of the time in the car. Still I have 14 polaroids and that was what I was hoping for!

As you can see is there one white polaroid on the right side of the camera. I don't know why that happened but it did..
This year we went for the 3th time to the same camping in France. We loved it so much there that we wanted to come back several times. This was our last year there we decided. We camped in our tent and lived the campinglife without laptop and only 1 hour of very slow wifi a day. It was good not to have wifi all day long. Also, camping means: no dishwasher. So the picture below is me doing the dishes. I'm not looking at the camera because this was my least favorite thing to do while camping ofcourse ;)

We also went to a beautiful waterfall nearby our camping. The village next to it is so peacful that I wanted to live there. The only thing is that the next big city would be more than 2 hours away from there and I can't live without shops nearby. There wasn't even a grocery store! But we really enjoyed the waterfall and walked down the stream to the little 'brigde' and then went home again.

Eating pizza is something that can't miss on a holiday for me. So here's is happy photo of me and my sister ready to eat our pizza's.

And of course our friends. On the camping it is easier to make new friends. We had a lovely group of friends we've been with 2 weeks in a row keeping each other company while relaxing at the swimming pool or doing a little dance in the bar on the camping.

We also visited some places like Domme, Sarlat, Souillac, Rocamadour
and Brive. This beautiful cake was eaten by me in Sarlat when we visited the market. The market there is huge and we had been there several times and decided to eat and drink at a tea house and watch all the people passing us by. It was a lovely morning!

The standard breakfast I had every morning while being there. I loved it so much and right now I miss it so much!

This is an overposed photo of me at the swimming pool where I spent most of the time this holiday!

In Brive I bought sandals and then we sat here by the fountain for a little while because it was a little to hot to shop and there weren't much shops. But there was also a little Sephora shop and I did buy a lipstick and a nail polish! I don't know what the three white dots in the middle of the photo are..

I have 14 photos but making a photo of a photo is really hard and you can see in some of my photos the reflection of my camera. And I have some darker photos in which you only saw the reflection so I couldn't use those. And they all look much darker on here then in real life...

I had a lot of fun trying to make a good photo. Photographing with a Polaroid camera is so much harder than with a DSLR camera. I mean, I only had one shot for the perfect photo so this was a real challenge and I learned that you shouldn't take a photo too close. It doesn't focus very well then... I had fun and loved my summer holiday. I need to think of a good place to stack them in my room. If you have a good idea, let me know in the comments below!

Xx Rianne